Has someone ever given you a compliment and instead of feeling awesome, you feel more self-conscious?
Girlfriend: "I really love those pants."
Your thoughts: "OMG—I could hardly button these pants this morning. I feel like I'm a sausage stuffed into them. Does she really like my pants or is she saying that because she thinks I'm fat?"
Whoa, there! Slow down.
We are all too familiar with the stories we tell ourselves in our heads when we don't look and feel our best. No one knows our flaws, imperfections, struggles, and insecurities better than we do ourselves. Sometimes we become so hyper-focused on what we don't like about ourselves that we forget others actually may like something us that we see as a fault or weakness.
Add in the comparison-driven world we live in—you know, the often dark, sad world of social media—and some of us find ourselves on the way to the Hot Mess Express. Best-selling author Stephen Furtick says, "The reason we struggle with insecurity is (often) because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."
It's incredible how feeling bad about ourselves can make us neglect our body, mind, and spirit. This only serves to perpetuate a downward spiral of negativity. We feel bad about ourselves, so we don't take care of ourselves, which makes us feel even worse. We turn our back on proper nutrition, exercise, relaxation, and self-care.
But what if we could shift our focus?
First, let's take an honest assessment.
Here are the 5 signs:
#1: Can you take a compliment?
A surprisingly large number of people can't. There's something in our mind-set that says we don't deserve positive feedback and therefore, anyone who pays us a compliment must be either lying, misguided, or feeling sorry for us. This is that little extra-critical voice in our heads, externalized and projected onto others.
You don't have to be cocky or arrogant to take a compliment, but it does require a little balanced perspective and self-assurance.
#2: Do you avoid social situations?
Some people are introverts and prefer to either be alone or with a small group of trusted family and friends. That's not the same as avoiding social settings or turning down invitations for something we ordinarily would enjoy because we are self-conscious about how we look or because we lack stamina or confidence.
News flash. Our friends, family, and coworkers like us and want us to hang out with them. Well…unless you're cocky and arrogant. Then, they might want you to stay home. (Kidding. Sort of.)
#3: Do you feel uncomfortable with intimacy?
It's not easy to be vulnerable around other people when we feel self-conscious about things we see as our own physical flaws. Sure, we can turn the lights down low, but that doesn't change the discomfort level of feeling inadequate. It's easier for us just to keep our distance.
#4: Do you feel like a fraud?
What happened to the confidence we had when we were youthful and fresh? Sometimes we are asked to push ourselves beyond our comfort zones in our career or in other areas of our lives. We used to say, "I never met a challenge we didn't love!" But now we feel uneasy and unsure of ourselves. People praise us and highlight our strengths, but it's harder to believe now. Deep down, we feel like a fraud. A wannabe. Unworthy.
Hey, we've worked hard for the life we have. We can own our worth and stop belittling ourselves.
#5: Do you wish you could change, but you feel stuck?
Like most people, we wish we could change something about how we look or how we feel. We want to be healthier and happier but have grown weary of trying. We find ourselves giving up, resigned to the fact that this is as good as it's going to get.
Sometimes we just haven't found the support system or solutions that are right for us. It is possible to move beyond mediocre and embrace the best possible body and life we can.
If you can relate to any of those 5 signs, you are not without hope. You CAN shift your focus and take your first step toward a better you.
Become a Healthier, Happier YOU
You're not alone. Most people struggle to look and feel their best.
At Nu Image Medical, we take a radically different and holistic approach to guiding you toward the best version of yourself. Whether you're struggling with something about your body, intimacy, aging—you can overcome any insecurity, move beyond mediocrity, and become a healthier, happier YOU.
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Improve your health
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There's a good chance we've been in your shoes and can help steer you to success. Let us guide you toward a healthier, happier YOU. The body and life you want is waiting.